How to kill your relationship?
I work in cafes a lot, lucky me, it gives me some time to observe people around me, couples who come in - their body language, a small little touch, and nods. What’s interesting to me is how some couples seemed so in love with each other while some didn’t even care to look their partner in the eyes while talking to them. Sure, I do not know their stories and I will not judge. People often start relationships happy and once the years roll in, the romance drains off.
How to make sure you’re out of love quickly?
Won’t STAY OFF YOUR PHONE!
Spending time on your social media accounts or staying glued to cellular games hurts your relationship. Your spouse is always by your side waiting for you to be available to them and you are busy tweeting instead, it shows disrespect.
Ask this, when you're outside in the restaurant or just having relaxing day at home, do you prefer to spend time on your phone?
This habit sends a message to your spouse that they are less important to you.
Are you addicted to your mobile phone? WHY?
Talking about work all the time
I understand how being in a long-term relationship makes you share values, such as your work, for instance. But when you bring that job’s worries to your partner, you only add stress to your relationship. And it drains the affection. Share enough time in caring and listening to your loved ones.
Build up contempt with your expectations
So he looked at that hot woman in yoga pants for 2 seconds a year ago, or she forgot to call your mother on her last birthday. And now, you wouldn’t let go any opportunity to remind him/her. You’re constant of keeping “score” on thing that’s out of your expectation will absolutely kill your relationship. Being in a relationship isn't a wrestling game. Quit keeping scores! Assessing every little detail of the times your spouse could not have been flawed is of no assistance. It is crucial to choose your battles wisely.
Not giving space to each other
Not spending any time apart tend to bring unnecessary strain in a relationship. It has an adverse psychological consequence when you want her attention all times. Keeping space is vital. You do not need to give your 101% attention all the time to someone you loved. Small breathing distance in the relationship keeps your romance hot.
Taking all the time, and not giving back
It's normal to have expectations in the relationship, but focusing too much about you all the time makes another person feel undervalued. This will kill the romance in the relationship altogether.
